| Time Constraint |
Judge Goodman regularly brings up how many documents are in my divorce file and he relates it to how much time he has to spend dealing with our divorce issues. He many times rules stupidly because of this. |
I overcame Judge Goodman's flaw in judgment, by dealing with only two issues per motion that I file. Plus I only upload 4-5 easy to read documents as my exhibits. This enables me to come to court often and develop a routine of me interacting with the Judge enough times to make it so that my arguments for my motion match his judicial style and his stated logic. |
| Group Think |
Many republicans are racist. If certain republican individuals do not consider themselves racist, after a few questions, I detect that they masters of their own white privilege benefits and how to speak to blacks in a way that sheds their white guilt. |
I overcame republicans' blind adherence to racist dogma & responsiveness to racist dog whistles, by talking in depth about everything racist that I have personally experienced, whilst at the same time spouting the same dogma & dog whistles in a more palatable manner on my show 'The Matt Ellipsis Show' on m3dots.com. Many conversations I have with racists and republicans are recorded so that I can analyze them on the show in real time with my audience. |
| Distorted View Of The Truth |
My ex-wife told my children that I left instead of telling them the truth that she filed an unnecessary restraining order, with the intent to disable my ability to fight the divorce & custody issues, which in fact, worked well for her. |
I overcame this by making a 1000 hours of video footage of me with my children in real touching moments that forever brands me in my children's mind as a 'loving father that would never leave them'. As they grow older, they will understand that their mother lied to them. Not just, though, by their own pontifications, but because I am making music videos, podcast episodes, movies, and songs about every single detail of our marriage & divorce so that my story is told everywhere in the world using my own generated talking points, wittiness, and memorable delivery. |
| Fear |
My ex-wife for many years did her best to make me afraid of her. I spent so much time being afraid to have arguments with her because it always ruined the sex that could have happened as well as it put a communication barrier. |
I overcame this by moving into the basement and letting her have the parents bedroom to herself. Many nights I know that she pined for me to come comfort her in the bed while she went through her own mental issues related to the multiple bad decisions that keep her in a bad mood. I'd be downstairs making music all day and night and sleeping as a retired man, whenever I want. She hated how energetic, rested, peaceable, joyful, and having constant fun with the children in every single moment. The children laughed every minute with me, every single minute. During that time, when she'd approach me with words in order to goad me into an argument, I'd give a well thought out quip that I may have pre-prepared, or repeat something that I say in one of my songs, and it would diffuse her whole verbal attack. She'd still be angry with me, but she couldn't do anything to win in an argument with me. Our communication was great during those times. |
| Past Experiences |
My children are going to grow up with a cognitive dissonance regarding their parents. They are going to realize that their mom is a liar and that I tell the truth 100% of the time, even when it is hard. Also, they are going to appreciate me more when they are in their early 20s. |
I overcame this by making my music videos that show in real time how much my children love me, which is a natural response from all of the years the I spent loving them. I, having been through the divorces of my parents and grandparents during the same age that my son & daughter are currently experiencing with the divorce of me and their mother, have been able to talk through all of the emotions and resolutions of each season of their childhood. |
| Viewing Everything Through The Lens Of Self |
My ex-fiance would argue with me about things that bothered her about me, but at the end of each of those arguments, she ends up letting me know that the root of that particular thing was really her selfishness. |
I overcame this by apologizing quickly for whatever perceived wrong that I committed. Then I'd use at least an hour to softly explain, with humor, how what I did was not wrong in my eyes, but looking at it through her perspective helps me see that I was wrong, in her eyes. Then I bring up at least three examples of when she did the exact same thing to me, but she did not think that it was wrong, so I, from her perspective, decided that it was not wrong. I'd further explain that if you are going to be mad with me about something, ensure that you get mad at yourself when you do it to me. This remedied a lot of problems and caused her to be more introspective and careful about making hypocritical wrongs against me. Also, I always spent hours making sure that she felt forgiven, safe, loved, cared for, and valued. This gave us a satisfying 22 months together. |